I posted this on a PTSD support site I belong to and it seemed to resonate with people so I thought I’d post it here as well–
EVERYBODY has “stuff.” Not everybody can see their stuff. Some people see their stuff and try to work through it; other people project all their stuff onto you and try to work through/hammer it out that way.
My point is, just because you’re in distress, don’t automatically jump to the conclusion that there’s something wrong with you. Just because others seem to be doing better than you, doesn’t mean you’re sick by default. There’s a lot of people who go through life in complete denial, shut down emotionally. Some people just unload all their crap on others.
Our society encourages people to be emotionally shut down and disconnected, if you’re not, you might suffer. Especially if people use you like their own personal garbage disposal to process all the stuff they don’t want to deal with.
YOU get to define what health, happiness and success look like. If it doesn’t look the same as everybody else’s — forget ’em. I support you, 100% ! It’s all relative! Don’t judge yourself by somebody else’s standards.